01 - Heat the milk in a small saucepan until steaming, being careful not to boil. Add Earl Grey tea bags and 2 teaspoons lavender. Allow to steep for 15 minutes to develop full flavor. Remove tea bags and strain out lavender blossoms. Let the infused milk cool completely. Reserve 2–3 tablespoons for the frosting; use the remaining milk in the cake batter.
02 - Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease and line two 8-inch round cake pans with parchment paper. In a medium bowl, whisk together flour, baking powder, baking soda, and salt until well combined. In a large mixing bowl, cream butter and sugar until light and fluffy, approximately 3–4 minutes. Beat in eggs one at a time, ensuring each is fully incorporated before adding the next. Add vanilla extract. Alternately add the flour mixture and infused milk to the butter mixture, beginning and ending with the dry ingredients. Mix gently just until combined, being careful not to overmix. Divide batter evenly between prepared pans. Bake for 25–30 minutes or until a wooden toothpick inserted into the center comes out clean. Cool in pans for 10 minutes before transferring to a wire rack to cool completely.
03 - Combine water, sugar, and lavender in a small saucepan over medium heat. Bring to a gentle simmer, stirring constantly until sugar completely dissolves. Remove from heat and let steep for 10 minutes to allow lavender flavor to develop. Strain through a fine-mesh sieve to remove lavender buds. Allow syrup to cool completely before using.
04 - Beat butter on medium-high speed until creamy and smooth, approximately 2–3 minutes. Reduce speed to low and gradually add powdered sugar, mixing until fully incorporated. Add vanilla extract and salt. Beat in the reserved infused milk, 1 tablespoon at a time, until frosting reaches desired spreading consistency. Increase speed to medium-high and beat for an additional 2 minutes until light and fluffy.
05 - Brush the tops of cooled cake layers generously with lavender syrup. Place one cake layer on a serving plate or cake stand. Spread an even layer of Earl Grey frosting over the surface. Carefully position the second cake layer on top. Frost the top and sides of the cake with remaining frosting, creating smooth, even coats. Optionally garnish with additional dried lavender blossoms for an elegant finish.